Tuesday, April 25, 2006

Guarded Hearts

Why do we sometimes try to change who we are to meet someone else's expectations? Why do we try to be like everyone else, or even worse, try to be better than everyone else? Why are we afraid to show who we really are, what we really think, and what we really feel?

We all have done it at least once, not just in the dating scene, but also in other circumstances, even in our own circle of friends. Are we so ashamed or disappointed in ourselves that we are scared to stand up and express ourselves…just respect ourselves? I'll be honest...there have been several times in my life where I chose to hide what I think or feel, just so I don't stand out...or get hurt.

In reality, I think some of us have just been guarding our hearts. We play games so we don't get hurt as much as we could if we were just able to be honest with each other. The feeling of "pain", "hurt", or "rejection" scares us so much, that we would rather hide our true feelings and thoughts, even our dreams. We would rather keep it all inside and just go with the flow. Yet, we are hurting ourselves more than we realize. We are missing out on so much. Because with the hurt comes the love, the honesty, the true feelings, the ability to move forward, the adventure, the journey.

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